Jealousy, Judgment, and Comparing Yourself to Others

Jealousy, judgment, and comparison all have the same root: insecurity. Admit it or not, if you weren’t insecure about something deep inside, you wouldn’t feel the urge to judge or compare yourself to others.

I’ve been there; obsessively researching what others did, analyzing their style, their approach, their success. I told myself I was thorough. Truth? I was spiraling into comparison, frozen by self-doubt. I didn’t trust my own voice, so I procrastinated behind a mask of “inspiration gathering.” It wasn’t just projects, it was my whole life. Constant self-criticism, anxiety, depression.

Jealousy, that notorious “green monster,” isn’t your enemy. It’s a mirror showing you what you want but believe you can’t have. It’s not about them, it’s about the beliefs you hold about yourself.

Breaking free starts with brutal honesty, no shame. When jealousy or judgment surfaces, ask yourself:

• Why does this bother me?

• What about this person or situation makes me feel small?

• What insecurity is this revealing?

Then listen, with compassion, not criticism. These feelings aren’t random, they’re invitations to heal.

Judgment works the same way. If you judge someone, pause and ask: “What part of myself am I projecting?” Usually, it’s something rejected or unaccepted within you. Meet those parts with compassion, and watch judgment soften.

Comparison steals your joy. I lived in that trap for years, measuring myself against someone else’s timeline, but your journey is unique. Once I trusted my own voice instead of looking outward for validation, comparison lost its power.

These emotions don’t ruin you, they reveal you. They spotlight where healing is possible. Get curious, not critical, about your reactions. Start reclaiming your power, see others’ success as inspiration, not competition. Most importantly, see yourself, not through lack, but through your true, radiant self.

Your action step:

Today, notice when comparison sneaks in. Don’t judge yourself, get curious. What is it trying to show you? Where do you need to reclaim your power? You’re not behind or late - your journey is unfolding exactly as it should. Celebrate your magic, no one can do it like you.