How I Rewired My Anxious Mind and Stopped Living for Everyone Else
- Aubrey
- Aug 2
- 3 min read
The Truth I Lived With
I spent most of my life swimming in anxiety, obsessive thoughts, and depression, and I truly believed that’s just who I was.
That I’d always be this way, that my mind would always be my enemy. I was mentally exhausted, emotionally drained, and stuck in patterns that didn’t even feel like mine.
It felt like I was living someone else’s life, on autopilot, performing instead of existing.
The Wake-Up Call
One day, I hit a wall, and something inside me finally snapped.
“I can’t live like this anymore.”
Not in a dramatic, movie moment kind of way, just a quiet inner rebellion.
I decided: I won’t be a victim to my own mind anymore.
When I really started observing my thoughts, two things became crystal clear:
Most of them were looping on the past or spiraling about a future that hadn’t even happened.
The life I was living? It wasn’t mine. It was stitched together from other people’s expectations, fears, and beliefs.
That was the moment everything started to shift.
Reclaiming My Identity
I made one big decision:
I’m done living for everyone else. I’m ready to live for me.
I was already deeply self-aware, but now, I used that awareness to watch myself. To track what triggered me, what I avoided, what I tolerated out of habit.
Then I made a list of everything I was ready to release:
The people-pleasing.
Letting anxiety drive every decision.
Obsessing over what already happened, or what might happen next.
Shrinking myself to keep other people comfortable.
And then I asked the only question that mattered:
If not this… then who do I actually want to be?
Creating My Reset Mantra
That question led me to a new list, one built from choice instead of conditioning. I wrote down who I wanted to be, how I wanted to feel, and what I wanted to stand for.
From that list, a mantra emerged. Just three words, but they shifted everything:
“I am happy. I am healthy. I am wealthy.”
These weren’t just affirmations, they were anchors.
“I am happy” meant staying present. Choosing my joy, not performing for others.
“I am healthy” reminded me to support my nervous system, care for my body, and believe in healing, even with chronic illness.
“I am wealthy” helped me start rewriting my relationship with money, and step out of survival mode.
This became my internal compass; something I could return to every time my thoughts started spinning out.
Rewiring in Real-Time
Every time I noticed myself spiraling, overthinking, or shutting down, I’d stop and say my mantra out loud.
“I am happy. I am healthy. I am wealthy.”
It became my reset button, and once I calmed my nervous system, I could ask myself:
What belief just got activated? Why did this hit so hard?
That’s how the rewiring happened. Not by forcing myself to be “positive," but by noticing the pattern, pausing the spiral, and choosing again.
The Bottom Line
Healing my anxious mind didn’t happen overnight, it wasn’t pretty or linear, but it started with one decision:
I’m not living like this anymore.
From there, I chose a new identity. I gave myself a mantra to hold onto, and I practiced presence, over and over again.
That was the beginning of everything changing.
Want to Try This Yourself?
If you’re stuck in anxiety, overwhelm, or people-pleasing, start with this:
Write two lists.
What are you done carrying?
Who do you actually want to become?
Create your own mantra.
Keep it short, powerful, and present-tense.
Let it touch your mind, body, and spirit.
Use it in real-time.
Every time you spiral, repeat it. Let it anchor you.
Then ask yourself what belief just got activated.
That’s where the rewiring begins.
Want to take this deeper?
If you’re ready to stop living in survival mode and start rewiring your anxious mind for real, download my free self-guided workbook:
“Break Free From Survival Mode.”
It’s packed with the exact prompts, mindset shifts, and mantra work that helped me take my power back. Whether you’re stuck in overthinking, people-pleasing, or just feel like you’ve lost yourself, this workbook will help you reconnect and reset.
Grab your free copy below and start your healing journey today.
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